Staying Safe When Meeting Up

When visiting Sydney I had the pleasure to interview two very solid and well respected kinksters Brew, he's one of the first leaders of Human Pup Play, and Keith, a very established kinkster.

Together they have seen many people fall to scams and sadly abuse in the setting if kink and fetish. I hope you find this interview interesting.

Hey everyone, I'm Brew Pierce, and I'm Keith Roebling, also known as Rook, and we're from San Francisco. We're both deeply involved in the kink scene here. For those who are curious about kink but don't know where to start, we offer some practical advice. Mentorship can be incredibly valuable, and in San Francisco, we have the Leatherman's Discussion Group that pairs mentors with mentees. However, for those not in big cities, finding a reliable mentor or safe group can be challenging. We discuss the importance of verifying people online, the need for clear communication, and the benefits of attending group events. Whether you're new or experienced, patience, safety, and community are key.

Key Points and Instructions

Getting Started with Kink

• Find a Mentor:

  • Look for mentorship programs if available, like the Leatherman's Discussion Group in San Francisco.
  • If no formal programs exist, seek out a mentor in the community who can guide you.

• Verify Online Contacts:

  • Be cautious with online interactions.
  • Verify people by checking if they are known and trusted by others in the community.
  • Ask for references and avoid those who refuse to provide them.

• Communicate Clearly:

  • State your expectations and needs upfront.
  • Be blunt and honest in your communication to avoid misunderstandings.

Meeting People and Safety Tips

• First Meetings:

  • Meet in public places like coffee shops or parks.
  • Inform a friend about your meeting and check in with them.
  • Set expectations ahead of time about the nature of the meeting.

• Group Events:

  • Attend group events to observe and meet people in a safer environment.
  • Use these events to get recommendations and verify potential partners.

Navigating Relationships

• Take it Slow:

  • Avoid rushing into relationships or moving in with someone you've just met.
  • Gradually build trust and understanding.

• 24/7 Dynamics:

  • Understand that 24/7 dynamics are more complex in reality than in fantasy.
  • Ensure both parties' needs and boundaries are respected.

• Gut Feelings:

  • Trust your instincts; if something feels off, it probably is.
  • Have a plan to extract yourself from uncomfortable situations.

For Shy or Newcomers

• Seek Support:

  • Approach friendly bartenders, salespeople in kink stores, or event organizers for guidance.
  • Use online resources like Facebook groups to connect with others.

• Learning and Exploration:

  • Start with small, manageable experiences and gradually explore more.
  • Volunteer for community events to meet people and get involved.

Final Tips

• Safety First:

  • Always prioritize safety and make wise decisions.
  • Listen to your gut and take precautions.

• Community and Patience:

  • Don’t give up hope; be patient and persistent.
  • Use available resources to find your place in the community.

We hope these tips help you navigate the kink world safely and enjoyably. Remember, you're not alone, and there's a community out there to support you.